Wednesday, April 14, 2010

About eight weeks ago I moved from Cleveland to the Chicago area to take a new job. Quite an adventure - moving 350+ miles away from friends and family, from the house we built and the city I had come to know and love through 23 years of living.

Now I'm in Illinois and my darling husband is in Northeast Ohio. We've never been this far apart for this long in almost 30 years of marriage, and let me tell you - it's tough. I mean, you expect to miss the person you're closest to, but it happens in funny little ways.

Like missing the ballast on the other side of the bed, and the sound of his breathing when you wake with a start at night. Like learning to make single serving meals (or get used to lots of leftovers). Like having someone to split a pizza with, go to a movie with and discuss the doings on your favorites TV shows.

Don't get me wrong - I "do" alone better than most of my married friends. I'm perfectly comfortable going out alone, exploring a new part of the country and learning my way around. I'm independent and I'm comfortable with myself.

But I have neither had nor wanted a single life for the last 30 years, and the sudden transition is difficult. So we try to find ways to be together as often as possible, at least a weekend every two to three weeks, sometimes more often. I'm racking up the frequent flyer miles, because the six- to seven-hour drive eats into the time I can share with family and friends back home.

On the plus side, I'm working again after eight months of unemployment. We're catching up on bills and savings again, although it's tough making up that much ground. I'm making new friends, I work for a great company with terrific benefits, and I live in a beautiful area.

So, yeah. I chose this path - I chose to work, to live apart from my family and to start a new adventure - and I'd make the same decision again. But every once in a while, I think I'm allowed to throw a little pity party for one.

Okay. I'm over it. Thanks for letting me vent. Let's talk about something else, shall we?